Maybe you prefer brunettes to blondes, but you wouldn’t necessarily avoid an otherwise acceptable mate for having golden locks (right…?). Now let’s say they’ve got serious anger issues; that’s a much different story. Of course, not everyone seeks out the same desirable features in a significant other, but a 2015 study shows the relationship deal-breakers many people agree on. Be honest, have you ever ghosted anyone based on these less-than-ideal qualities? *Raises hand*

Good is Good, Bad is Worse

Most of those magazine cover-friendly “7 Ways To Make Yourself Irresistible To Hotties”-type articles focus on desirable traits. The deal-makers, if you will. But for a 2015 study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, researchers focused on the absolute roadblocks. Can’t know the good without the bad, you know?

According to the research, deal-breakers were weighed more heavily than deal-makers, which really underlines the importance of identifying those . In other words, bad qualities are worse than positive qualities are good. This effect was stronger for women (versus men) and people in committed relationships. According to the study, “these findings support adaptive attentional biases in human social cognition.”

Deal Or No Deal?

The study identified two top ten deal-breaker lists: one for long-term relationships and one for short-term relationships. There are some overlaps, to be expected, but you might be surprised to learn that being unattractive and “bad in bed,” for example, are only really major issues for short-term fling seekers. Do your deal-breakers line up with what this study found?

Long-Term Relationship Deal-Breakers

The person…

1. Has anger issues or is abusive

2. Is currently dating multiple partners

3. Is untrustworthy

4. Is already in a relationship/married

5. Has health issues such as STDs

6. Has an alcohol or drug problem

7. Is inattentive/uncaring

8. Has anger issues or is abusive

9. Has poor hygiene

10. Smells bad

Short-Term Relationship Deal-Breakers

The person…

1. Has health issues such as STDs

2. Smells bad

3. Has poor hygiene

4. Is already in a relationship/married

5. Has anger issues or is abusive

6. Is bad in bed

7. Is unattractive

8. Is currently dating multiple partners

9. Does not take care of themselves

10. Is racist/bigoted